One last thought on friendship
Here is our last post on Friendship...
Can We Still Be Friends?
Can We Still Be Friends?
by Kathleen Sheppard
I was cold and hurting
lost out in the night
wandering and searching
for heaven's light
I saw the night sky clearing
when you spread your rainbow wings
But little did I know
what joy you would bring
From that moment on
a friendship did start
you kissed away my tears
and sheltered my heart
I bless the day God
sent him from above
But then I grew fearful
for I had fallen in love
I told you this feeling
and what did you say?
You said you liked our friendship
and that's how it would stay
I cried for a friendship I thought I lost
But then felt your warm, gentle hand
You then whispered in my ear
that by my side you'll forever stand
For this post, I would like to reflect on what this poem is talking about and to answer the following questions:
What is this poem trying to convey? What's happening?
Has this type of situation ever occured to you? How did you deal with it? If you have not dealt with this before, how would you deal with this situation if you were placed in it?
Finally...
I would like you to write your own poem about friendship. Do not post it, rather type it out and be ready to share it in class on Friday, 11/17/06. It can be about this situation above or any other aspect of friendship. It has to be at least 4 stanzas.
See you soon,
Mr R :o)
posted by Theology IV at 6:28 PM
14 Comments:
This poem is conveying a relationship between a boy and a girl in which the girl want's to be more than just friends and all the boy can offer is friendship.
I have gone through this. It's always the same person that I want to give my heart to but she doesnt want me. How do I deal with this?
I wait and hope that she'll change her mind. I'm always there, listening when she needs someone, giving her advice, cheering her up when she needs it. I respect her decision, though I want to be more than friends, there's nothing I can do about it.
My thinking is that if I stick around and be what she needs she might see me as someone she could want. There's one thing I want to do though, this is the last time that I'm going to tell her how I feel, whether she accepts me or not is up to her, but i need to move on.
In the poem..she was alone and she found a friend. She ended falling for her friend and when she told him, he just wanted to stay friends.
This situation has happened to me before and it worked out alright. i told him how i he felt, he told me how he felt, we talked about it, and now we're just friends. Now i consider him as one of my closest friends because that situation brought us closer.
This poem shows what happens when it grows into something deeper. Sometimes it doesn't grow at the same pace for the two people. And sometimes it stops in one person while it continues in the other and that's not always fun. I don’t think that the person lost a friendship, the friendship just wasn’t able to grow.
This exact situation hasn't happened to me. I've never really had grown that close to someone that I’ve been close friends from the start. Sure, you’d have to be friends first, but I don’t remember ever starting out as close friends. If something like that were to happen to me I think I’d just accept what the other person wants. If I do really love him then I’d respect him, even though he didn’t feel the same. If I were on the other side of the situation I’d be so flattered. But if I didn’t feel the same way I’d at least try to keep the friendship alive. And who knows, if he really did love me he’d wait right?! And maybe in time I'd feel differently.
What this poem is trying to convey is that the speaker wants to be more than friends. The speaker wants a relationship with this person, but this other person doesnt want to. Reason being that he's happy and content with their friendship now and doesn't want anything more. This person tells the speaker this and, of course, the speaker is bummed. The speaker feels as if their friendship is lost, but then the other person reassures that its not lost and he/she will always be there for the speaker.
Yes, i have dealt with this type of situation not too long ago, but what was different about it was that i was the person the speaker refers to. At first, it wasn't a difficult situation until it got really serious and i realized that our friendship was more important and if we were to be together in a relationship it would then cause our friendship to fall. Not only will our friendship fall, but others around us because we are bestfriends and so we have the same circle of friends and if somehting went wrong our group would split (girls would side w/ me and boys would side w/ him). It was a very, very difficult situation that i hope never happens because i almost lost my bestfriend over this and dealing with it was probably the hardest i've had to deal with throughout my highschool years. Everything is great now, we've settled everything (no matter how long it was). What mattered the most to me was our friendship. We're great as friends and nothing more.
The poem is about a girl who fell in love with her best friend. Although he didnt feel the same about her, he still wanted to remain friends and he assured her that he will always be there for her.
No, this situation hasnt happen to me. Although if I had been in a situtation like this i would still remain best friends with that other person and hope the other person can handle just being friends. Although if i was to like my best friend i hope that they would understand and if they didnt feel, he would assure that we would still be best friends and he wouldnt hold it against me. And i hope it wouldnt be so awkward.
I think that the poem is about a girl who is in love with one of her guy friends but unfortunately he does not have feelings for her in those ways and i guess that she thought that their friendship was awkward and all she wanted was to still be friends and in the end the guy showed her that things were cool.
This situation has never occured to me but if i had to deal with this situation i would just accept the fact that it wasn't meant to be.
This poem is trying to say that two people are the greatest of friends but one of them start to fall in love with the other. Sad to say that when this person tells the friend that she/he is falling for, the friend says that she/he can't do that because their friendship is too great for it to fall apart if anything goes wrong in a full on relationship! Point well taken!
In my personal experience, yes this situation has occured in my life! I had a really close guy friend in middle school and we told each other EVERYTHING! Down to what we feared most, to what we wanted to do after high school...just everything a typical close friendship can go through! To be honest, I actually thought about if we were to get together (as in boyfriend & girlfriend wise) but I just could not risk throwing our special frienship away! One day, he decided to come our with it and tell me that he's starting to fall for me...I guess...LoL. I told him the truth about me also thinking about it but then again, I told him I couldn't do it! Not with someone as close as him. So I basically rejected his offering and told him how sorry I was and I hoped it didn't changed anything between us. He said not to worry about anything and just forget what he mentioned so I did! I thought he was ok with everything after that but I was wrong! Day's passed and I slowly started to notice that he was a little distant than usual. I already knew that is was because I simply said no! :sigh:...but it didn't change my mind about not wanting to be with him like that! If he really cared about our friendship and what we had then I really dont think I'd be sitting here, typing about how he just let everything slip away by not talking to me anymore! I was fine...it didn't really bug me all that much. Only the fact that he knew practically my whole life story then! It's ok, I have new GREATER friends than that now who actually care about keeping our friendship strong! That's all I need to know! =D
well the poem is more like a story of the boy and girl, how they go from friends to platonic friends.
things like platonic friends always end the same... "you're never as close as you once were."
see it gets coplicated when you fall for your friends especially close ones, because you sometimes want more then frienship and i gets hard eventually we all chose either stay in it and be in the friend zone for a while or you take a chance "take that first step because sometimes in life you just got to take risks." it just depends on how badly you want it...
and if you willing to risk your friendship over it.
you just don't want to spend your time dwelling about what could have happened...
-carlos perez
this poem is talking about a person that loved his frienship with another person. This friendship grew into love. as they say.. 'love is friendship on fire'. it grew into love or unrequited love. The other person did not feel the same way but told them that they would always be there for them..as their friend.
I have been in this situation before, and it didnt work out. IT sucked, but i thank God for other things that didnt work out because he gave me love and happiness no other could give me.
I think this poem is trying to convey that it is better to start out as friends and then move to the next level with someone...just because it is easier and you can not love someone with out being their friend first.What is happening is that this guy started a friendship with this girl and their friendship grew from just friends to more than friends.
This situation has happened to me before, but it was not as like passionate and straightfoward as the poem. I reacted discreetly and just told that person straight out I did not see him in that way.
- rachel
this poem is about a girl who wants to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with this one guy. But this guy told her that they are always going to be the best of friends and thats how it would stay. The girl was pretty disappointed but then she accepted the fact that they cannot be more than friends.
yes, this situation heappend to me. i really llked this girl in middle school, so i got her number and we started talking. But we talked so much that we got super close and we both knew that going out with each other would be awkward. so now she's one of best friends. we still talk to each other up to now.
In this poem the girl and the boy are really close friends; the girl's care for the boy grows and she wants to further the frindship, but the boy wants to just stay friends.SAD REJECTED!
No this situation has never really happened to mebecasue I have never really had any close friends that were girls, until now, and i think Lucio is the same. Like the closest friend i have is probably Cami. Though if this did happen to me i think i would talk to the person to try to work something out that is the best for the both of us.
This poem seems to be about a good close friend relationship. A relationship that got to close,and sometimes that is a good thing and other times its a bad thing. It all depends on if they both want to cross the friendship line or is it just one. i believe that is the main problem. this situation is like loving someone and them not returning the affection you want. maybe not then and there but if they give it sometime then maybe things might turn around.
i had a situation somewhat like that...i have been friends with someone for a very long time...in fact from what our moms said we have known each other ever since we were in diapers! we would joke about if we WERE going out...what would our parents think,but that was it...we were JOKING...the thought became all serious when i had my 16th party but not that serious then i had prom.I went to prom with him and that topic came up in our conversation...then we made it straight that just for this one night we would have fun dancing and to not think of what our 'PARENTS' would say if they saw us...but we would remain JUST FRIENDS and we are fine with that...im fine with that.
I believe the poem is conveying that even though the other person did not want a deeper relationship they still wanted to remain friends. He told them that even though he only wanted to be friends he would still always be with them, forever by their side he would stay.
I would have to say yes, this situation has happended to me before. You never realize how hard it really is to tell someone you don't feel the same way about them until you actually have to do it. Who would have known that being just friends would be so difficult. I had to do it, and just tell them, so that they may move on with their lives and me with mine.
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